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Title: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Bison on May 13, 2012, 05:48:54 PM
Can anyone here confirm if this is true?

http://www.matrixgames.com/forums/tm.asp?m=3103878&mpage=1&key=&#3103900


This is Debbie, Critter's girlfriend. I know he was on this site often. Critter had a heart attack on 5.3.12. We had to take him off the ventilater this last Tuesday. They tried to for 25 minutes to get a heartbeat, they succeeded. However, due to the lack of blood flow to the brain, he was in a vegetative state. He would only open his eyes half way, was not able to focus or make contact with you. He also could not follow any commands such as looking around the room or squeezing your hand. Critter died early this morning.

Jesus if this is true.  It's very sad news indeed.  Critter was a very thoughtful man and he will be sorely missed.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: son_of_montfort on May 13, 2012, 05:57:14 PM
I haven't heard anything like this, but Critter has been offline for quite some time. I sure hope this isn't true, Critter was a fine person and great to talk to. But I can't imagine anyone would be so crazy as to put a post like that up for a joke, so I hate to say I think it may be valid. I will miss him as well.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Bison on May 13, 2012, 06:04:00 PM
I've searched on google and bing and didn't see an obituary for Raymond Cheatham.  He sent me a package in Afghanistan with some pictures colored by his grand kids. Just really sad news.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: LongBlade on May 13, 2012, 06:12:46 PM
I've searched on google and bing and didn't see an obituary for Raymond Cheatham.  He sent me a package in Afghanistan with some pictures colored by his grand kids. Just really sad news.

The announcement was just made on the forums. It may take a couple of days to show up. Keep looking and keep us posted. I don't see him registered here as Critter so there's not much I can do from here.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Staggerwing on May 13, 2012, 06:37:01 PM
 :( I am sad to hear this. My prayers go out to his family and friends.

RIP, Critter.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Centurion40 on May 13, 2012, 07:34:27 PM
I'm fucking stunned.  I mean what?  Holy fuck.  :'(

Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Centurion40 on May 13, 2012, 07:39:52 PM
I've searched on google and bing and didn't see an obituary for Raymond Cheatham.  He sent me a package in Afghanistan with some pictures colored by his grand kids. Just really sad news.

Usually takes a day or two after a death for an obituary to show-up in newspapers. Very, very sad.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Gusington on May 13, 2012, 07:42:16 PM
Oh my God.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: bayonetbrant on May 13, 2012, 07:53:48 PM
statistically, I'm surprised we haven't lost anyone else in the 7+ years I've been hanging around with this gang.

But to lose a thoughtful and articulate guy like Critter really sucks.

RIP Critter...may there be plenty of dice in whatever heaven you find yourself.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Bison on May 13, 2012, 08:06:45 PM
I guess there won't be an obituary for a few days.  I miss read the original post and thought that he'd passed away last Tuesday.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Mr. Bigglesworth on May 13, 2012, 08:08:32 PM
 :(
RIP Critter. His voice will be missed.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: MetalDog on May 13, 2012, 09:04:17 PM
Critter and I had an ongoing Civ game for a while.  We talked occasionally and he even promised to get by and have a beer with me.  I asked him to come over to Grogheads, but, I think he was attached to Azz.  I used to get texts from Ray from time to time and Azz would Reply All whatever his response was.  I switched phones about a month ago and lost some of my Contact information.  Critter was one of them.  I'm sorry about the news.  I hope it isn't true, but I'm afraid it may be.  R.I.P. my friend.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: son_of_montfort on May 13, 2012, 09:07:36 PM
I've searched on google and bing and didn't see an obituary for Raymond Cheatham.  He sent me a package in Afghanistan with some pictures colored by his grand kids. Just really sad news.

Keep us posted in the next few days. Such sad news.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Jarhead0331 on May 13, 2012, 09:51:50 PM
Very sad news.
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Steelgrave on May 13, 2012, 10:54:30 PM
Sad news  :-[
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: Martok on May 13, 2012, 11:33:01 PM
I'm fucking stunned.  I mean what?  Holy fuck.  :'(

I'm stunned as well.  It seems like just yesterday (even though it was ~9 months ago) when I spoke with critter on the phone about my then-unemployment, and the advice he was giving me on possibly becoming a truck driver. 

He was a really friendly and personable guy, and I will definitely miss him.  I can't believe he's gone.  :'( 


Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: MikeGER on May 14, 2012, 12:13:55 AM
I'm shocked !
my condolences to the family and friends
a wellknown part of our international Wargaming Community spread over many forums ... I miss him!
Title: Re: Critter?
Post by: ComradeP on May 14, 2012, 02:20:23 AM
Bad news indeed, may he rest in peace.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: W8taminute on May 14, 2012, 04:58:42 AM
This is sad news.  My thoughts and prayers go out to Critter's family and loved ones.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: mirth on May 14, 2012, 07:14:16 AM
Awful news. I didn't know Critter, but I can tell, from the praise of those of you who did, that he was a good guy. My condolences to all who knew him, friends and family alike.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: LongBlade on May 14, 2012, 07:16:30 AM
My memories of him were of a nice guy. Sad news indeed.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Smuckatelli on May 14, 2012, 07:44:52 AM
I'm very sad to hear this news. He'll be in our prayers.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Gusington on May 14, 2012, 08:39:02 AM
He was a good guy, he helped me out too when I was jobless. RIP critter we will miss you.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: son_of_montfort on May 14, 2012, 09:41:29 AM
Awful news. I didn't know Critter, but I can tell, from the praise of those of you who did, that he was a good guy. My condolences to all who knew him, friends and family alike.

He was a fun and funny guy. I have a fond memory of us having a good laugh when I made some quip about Montesanto's GMO starting a zombie apocalpyse. It turned out, the next day he was driving a load of Montesanto products and he told me not to blame him. It was a great exchange and show a keen wit. Funny the things you remember.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Windigo on May 14, 2012, 10:35:43 AM
(http://www.dreamstime.com/vintage-man-mourning-photo-thumb2759236.jpg)
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Arctic Blast on May 14, 2012, 02:44:42 PM
Wow. That's horrible. I also didn't know the guy well, but he seemed like one of the good ones.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: son_of_montfort on May 14, 2012, 03:51:59 PM
I found the Obit:

http://baue.tributes.com/show/Raymond-W.-Critter-Cheatham-93812954

 :'(
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: mirth on May 14, 2012, 03:57:08 PM
Thanks for posting it, SoM. It's neat that he was a plank owner on the Eisenhower. Wish I had known him more than in passing as an internet alias.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Staggerwing on May 14, 2012, 04:26:48 PM

In the obit Debbie is listed as his fiance, not girlfriend. Given his avatar pic at WG this brings even more sadness...  :(

(http://wargamer.com/files/forums/avatars/40386/jared.jpg)



Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Centurion40 on May 14, 2012, 09:07:14 PM
I found the Obit:

http://baue.tributes.com/show/Raymond-W.-Critter-Cheatham-93812954

 :'(

Thanks for posting that.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Keunert on May 14, 2012, 09:33:22 PM
very sad, we were at the same forums as we shared the love for similiar games. Rest in peace Critter.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Martok on May 15, 2012, 12:22:32 AM
I found the Obit:

http://baue.tributes.com/show/Raymond-W.-Critter-Cheatham-93812954

 :'(

Thanks Monty.  I'm sad all over again to know his death is confirmed, but at least now we know for sure. 


...Is it crazy that I'm actually considering driving down to St. Louis (St. Charles) for the funeral?  My plan is only half-assed at the moment (I'd need to get Thursday night off, which might be tricky), but I'm thinking it could work. 


Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Bison on May 15, 2012, 12:27:58 AM
I'd read the tribute earlier.  It's just a sad.  He was far too young.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Keunert on May 15, 2012, 01:00:53 AM
they plan to bury him with Decisive Campaigns The Blitzkrieg from Warsaw to Paris! That's my gaming favourite too, but i would rather take something like a drawing from my kids with me. he must have been a gaming enthusiast.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: MikeGER on May 15, 2012, 01:48:12 AM
on a side note
i opt for moving this farewell to Critter thread into the public area 
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Barthheart on May 15, 2012, 05:02:40 AM
I found the Obit:

http://baue.tributes.com/show/Raymond-W.-Critter-Cheatham-93812954

 :'(

Wow his was only 53. Very sad news. :(
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Gusington on May 15, 2012, 08:35:09 AM
Mike this thread is in Current Events which is public.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: OJsDad on May 15, 2012, 10:17:59 AM
RIP in Critter
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Tpek on May 15, 2012, 02:03:29 PM
These are sad news, my condolences to his family, friends and rest of kin. :(
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Shelldrake on May 15, 2012, 04:27:46 PM
I found the Obit:

http://baue.tributes.com/show/Raymond-W.-Critter-Cheatham-93812954

 :'(

Terrible news. My condolences to all of Critter's family and friends. He was one of the good ones and will be greatly missed by the wargaming community. Rest in peace.  :'(
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Martok on May 16, 2012, 12:12:04 AM
All right, I think I've got it worked out so that I can attend his funeral on Friday. 

I was already going to be heading southeast this weekend anyway (Syttende Mai celebration in my mom's hometown, and I'm visiting my grandmother while I'm at it).  The main difference is now I'm leaving a day earlier and am taking a longer "scenic route" than originally planned -- 11/12-hour trip versus 5 hours.  :P 

It'll mean Thursday & Friday will be long days with all the driving, of course (it's also a 7/8-hour drive from St. Louis back up to Spring Grove, MN so I can attend the Syttende Mai festival), but I deem it worth the effort.  I considered Ray a friend, and he meant a lot to many of us; I think it's the least I can do for him. 


By the by, I'm wondering if I should maybe get a card and "sign" it from any Grogs (and possibly WG'ers) who request that I put their name(s) in.  What do you guys think? 


Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: MikeGER on May 16, 2012, 01:09:46 AM
By the by, I'm wondering if I should maybe get a card and "sign" it from any Grogs (and possibly WG'ers) who request that I put their name(s) in.  What do you guys think?

yes please.
(and maybe in a separate note the links to his tribute threads at Grog, WG and Matrix .... maybe there are more sides?)
it may comfort his family and closer non wargaming friends a little, that he was much more then  'a trucker from IL with an exotic hobby' 
He made a global footprint.       

hmmm ...i also opt for a quick collection here for some 'flowers'? (i dont know the right American english expression)
i would 'paypal' you my share upfront to your account  (pm me the infos that would be nessesary ...if that would be ok?) 
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Shelldrake on May 16, 2012, 03:57:57 AM
By the by, I'm wondering if I should maybe get a card and "sign" it from any Grogs (and possibly WG'ers) who request that I put their name(s) in.  What do you guys think?

Great idea - please add my name.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Staggerwing on May 16, 2012, 04:09:18 AM
Martok, I'd be grateful if you would ad me to the card as well. I didn't know him as well as some of you but he was no stranger.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: bayonetbrant on May 16, 2012, 04:49:52 AM
I think signing a card for a bunch of us, and including the link to this thread, is a great idea.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Centurion40 on May 16, 2012, 06:52:14 AM
Yeah Martok, it is wonderful that you can attend and please add my name to the card.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: LongBlade on May 16, 2012, 06:53:23 AM
+1. Thanks Martok. I can't say I knew him well, but I can say that what I knew of him I really liked and wish I had been able to know more.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Centurion40 on May 16, 2012, 07:14:34 AM
+1. Thanks Martok. I can't say I knew him well, but I can say that what I knew of him I really liked and wish I had been able to know more.

Exactly.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: UlrichVonBek on May 16, 2012, 07:28:24 AM
Didn't know him, but feel for his family. To young. RIP Critter.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Bison on May 16, 2012, 08:21:23 AM
Good idea Martok.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Martok on May 16, 2012, 08:43:44 AM
You guys want me to use your real names (in which case you should probably PM me with them, as there are still some of you where I don't know it or -- to my shame/embarrassment -- have forgotten it), or will your GH handles suffice? 


EDIT:  It would help if you could please let me know no later than, say, 4:00 a.m. Thursday morning (CST), as I'll be largely "off the grid" after that. 

Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: LongBlade on May 16, 2012, 09:05:25 AM
You guys want me to use your real names (in which case you should probably PM me with them, as there are still some of you where I don't know it or -- to my shame/embarrassment -- have forgotten it), or will your GH handles suffice? 


EDIT:  It would help if you could please let me know no later than, say, 4:00 a.m. Thursday morning (CST), as I'll be largely "off the grid" after that.

I'll add that the family might appreciate it if you gave a city and state, too. Just a suggestion, but one you might consider.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Martok on May 16, 2012, 09:11:15 AM
^  Good idea, LB



Okay, let's do it this way: 

Whoever wants "in" on the card, PM me with your name (or your GH handle, whichever you prefer).  If you also want to include city and state/province/county, feel free to do so! 

Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Barthheart on May 16, 2012, 09:24:08 AM
Done.  :)
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Gusington on May 16, 2012, 09:24:38 AM
Martok I sent you a PM.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: MikeGER on May 16, 2012, 10:45:07 AM
Done
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Shelldrake on May 16, 2012, 11:05:11 AM
PM sent
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: MetalDog on May 16, 2012, 07:41:55 PM
PM sent.  And thank you so much for doing this.  It truly shows that, internet or not, our friendships mean something.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Arctic Blast on May 16, 2012, 09:30:43 PM
PM sent.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Staggerwing on May 16, 2012, 09:31:38 PM
Also.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Martok on May 17, 2012, 05:26:05 AM
Thanks everyone!  I've got your guys' info for the card; much appreciated. 


I'll be leaving as soon as I get off work here (in half an hour), after which I'll be largely incommunicado from now til Sunday night.  Have a great weekend everyone! 

Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Shelldrake on May 17, 2012, 05:40:48 AM
^Have a safe trip my friend!
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: W8taminute on May 17, 2012, 08:21:32 AM
^Have a safe trip my friend!

+1
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Gusington on May 17, 2012, 09:00:09 AM
Thanks for doing this Martok.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: son_of_montfort on May 17, 2012, 10:38:27 AM
Safe trip and thanks for doing this!
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Bison on May 17, 2012, 01:22:55 PM
Have a safe drive Martok.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Staggerwing on May 17, 2012, 01:23:40 PM
Yes. Stay alert  ;)
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Arctic Blast on May 17, 2012, 09:34:56 PM
Have a safe trip, Martok. And thanks for doing this.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Martok on May 19, 2012, 10:17:03 AM
Thanks for all the well-wishes, everyone! 

Well I'm back -- so to speak.  I'm now in La Crosse, WI (got in last night around 10:00), getting ready to go visit my grandmother and attend the Syttende Mai festivities across the river in Spring Grove.  Before I go, though, here's a quick report on my trip to St. Louis for the funeral: 


Ray's memorial service went well (if that can be said for such an event).  It was held at the funeral home, and was a fairly intimate gathering; I'd guess somewhere around 50 people were there, mostly family (I believe).  Appropriately, he was being buried with his copy of Decisive Campaigns: The Blitzkrieg from Warsaw to Paris.  I had to grin when I saw that! 

The Patriot Guard riders were there in full force as well (for those who didn't know, critter served in the Navy).  I'd never seen them in person before, and they presented a most impressive -- and moving -- sight.  I thanked them for their service, having promised myself I would do so should I ever have the opportunity. 


Ray's ex-wife Linda (with whom he'd remained on good terms) found me shortly before the service began; she greeted me warmly, especially when I explained what I was doing there and how I knew Ray.  She delightedly introduced me to his friend Greg, with whom he'd been playing wargames for the better part of 30 years.  (We talked shop a little bit, despite his being clearly out of my league -- this guy's experience with the genre was orders of magnitude beyond my own -- and also got to learn a little bit more about critter in the process.)  He was an incredibly nice guy, and we sat together during the service. 

I also spoke with Ray's fiance Debbie afterwards, and she too was very glad to see me after I explained how I knew him.  (In addition, I thanked her for informing us about his passing.)  I told her and Linda about the Grogheads, Wargamer, and Matrix sites (I'd included the web addresses for all three in the card), and they said they would be sure to check out the threads dedicated to him.  They seemed very touched by the fact that so many people whom they'd never even met were affected by Ray's death, and I made sure to let them know that they had our full sympathy and well-wishes. 




Anyway, that's about all I got for now.  I'm off to see my grandmother and stuff my face with fine Norwegian cuisine.  Later guys! 


Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Gusington on May 19, 2012, 10:24:42 AM
^Thanks again Martok. And get some good WWI stories from Granny this time!
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: W8taminute on May 19, 2012, 12:17:14 PM
Martok, it sounds like you touched the hearts of critters family and friends in a good way.  Shame it had to be under these circumstances but you did a good thing.  Thanks for representing us there. 

I grinned when you mentioned he was buried with his favorite wargame. 

Peace.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: bayonetbrant on May 19, 2012, 08:35:19 PM
Martok - you've done the family proud.  And anyone who doesn't think we're a family doesn't know what a family is.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Bison on May 19, 2012, 08:44:28 PM
That was a really nice gesture on your part.  Thanks for taking the time to represent the community.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: MikeGER on May 20, 2012, 12:48:41 AM
That was a really nice gesture on your part.  Thanks for taking the time to represent the community.
+1
(when im longing for just the right English words ...Bison got them ) 
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Shelldrake on May 20, 2012, 06:20:01 AM
That was a really nice gesture on your part.  Thanks for taking the time to represent the community.

+1
I am looking forward to those WWI stories!
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Staggerwing on May 20, 2012, 06:53:54 AM
Martok,
Just wanted to echo the sentiments here as well. Critter's family now knows that they are not alone in missing him. Most of us will probably pass away unnoticed by all but a few friends and family. Critter leaves a living memory behind that networks across several continents. Where ever he may be, Valhalla, Heaven, etc ( joining his daughter who died too young)  he can look out and see how many people he touched in some way. Thank you for helping make it happen.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: MetalDog on May 20, 2012, 07:50:55 AM
I can't say any better what has already been said, so I will just add my thanks.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Arctic Blast on May 20, 2012, 03:17:08 PM
Thanks again, Martok. Fine work.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Centurion40 on May 20, 2012, 09:03:27 PM
Martok - you've done the family proud.  And anyone who doesn't think we're a family doesn't know what a family is.

Amen!
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: LongBlade on May 21, 2012, 07:19:38 AM
Thanks, Martok. We appreciate it.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Martok on May 21, 2012, 07:57:33 PM
I'm embarrassed to even say "you're welcome" -- I'd originally done this for my own reasons, and was genuinely happy to do it -- but you're welcome.  :) 

It did feel good to be representing the community at Ray's memorial service.  I think Debbie and Linda (and hopefully, his entire family) will derive some comfort knowing he's missed by so many of us. 




^Thanks again Martok. And get some good WWI stories from Granny this time!

I am looking forward to those WWI stories!

I'll start another thread about that when I get a chance (hopefully tonight). 

However, I'll warn you:  It's not going to be much.  As I've said before, my grandmother was only a little girl during the war, and she doesn't remember much at this point. 

Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Steelgrave on May 21, 2012, 11:09:01 PM
My oldest son and I recently had a somewhat drunken discussion (Jack Daniel shots and Shiner Beer in a college bar within walking distance of his house) during which the subject of what his Mom and I want done when that time comes. He wasn't being morbid, his best friend's dad was my age and just passed away of a heart attack, so it was kinda natural for that to cross his mind.

Among other things that I told him (like don't spend a dime you don't have to!), I asked him to log onto my account here with the news, but also that in lieu of traditional weepy stuff, I wouldn't be in the least offended if an Irish wake broke out with shots, beer and the sound of laughter. There are certainly worse ways to be serenaded off into the afterlife than hearing the laughter of friends and loved ones on your way.

My point? Simply this. Free booze when I pass. That's one way to guarantee a good turn out   ;)
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: GDS_Starfury on May 23, 2012, 10:34:26 PM
Im just catching up with a lot of things that I have usually paid a lot more attention to in the past.
this turn of life caught me completely off guard.

Good journeys my friend, you shall be missed.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Shelldrake on May 24, 2012, 07:11:08 AM
Let's hope that we don't lose anyone else for a long, long time.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: acheatham on June 18, 2012, 06:45:01 AM
i have been looking everywhere for you guys, wanted to say thank you martok i wasnt able to meet you when you were there, at least not properly introduced sorry but thank you for the card with everybodys name in it.  let me introduce myself i'm amanda cheatham his oldest daughter.  and i was a big daddy's girl which meant i sat half the time and watched dad post to these forums or play the war games(i can play everything but stratigic wargames).  i always looked up to my dad and was very proud the day i found out(which was after the day of service) that there was a globel network who is missing him almost as much as me.  again thank you and if you want to talk or ask questions im ok with that.

sincerly
amanda cheatham
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: acheatham on June 18, 2012, 06:48:48 AM
and btw for your children if nothing else PLEASE i beg of you make a living will or at least let it be known what ur finial wishes are thankfully i knew dads and a veg state is not what he wanted due to us losing my sister in 2003 his mom in 2008 now him.  thank you
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Centurion40 on June 18, 2012, 06:49:15 AM
Amanda, please accept my deepest condolences.

We all enjoyed your dad's virtual company and we all miss his presence.

I've also lost my father unexpectedly (it will be 6 years this coming December).  I want you to know that missing Dad (even at Father's Day) does get easier over time.  Keep breathing and eventually things do get better.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Centurion40 on June 18, 2012, 06:50:23 AM
and btw for your children if nothing else PLEASE i beg of you make a living will or at least let it be known what ur finial wishes are thankfully i knew dads and a veg state is not what he wanted due to us losing my sister in 2003 his mom in 2008 now him.  thank you

Good advice.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: acheatham on June 18, 2012, 06:58:26 AM
thank you and he enjoyed you'll company just as much im a daddy's girl looked up to him hope i did him proud with funeral arrangements just had military and wargames on mind just as dad would have.  im just now able to eat and sleep a little, when we lost my sister in 2003 i watched my parents go threw that, after that i learned sometimes time has to have time.  thank you very much.  everything you guys have done for him (forum wise and other) has really been helping me through this so thank you.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: LongBlade on June 18, 2012, 08:50:18 AM
Hi Amanda,

I didn't know your father well, but I truly enjoyed his company. We miss him. I'm sorry for your loss but cheered by your story of enjoying gaming with him.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Martok on June 18, 2012, 01:07:39 PM
i have been looking everywhere for you guys, wanted to say thank you martok i wasnt able to meet you when you were there, at least not properly introduced sorry but thank you for the card with everybodys name in it.  let me introduce myself i'm amanda cheatham his oldest daughter.  and i was a big daddy's girl which meant i sat half the time and watched dad post to these forums or play the war games(i can play everything but stratigic wargames).  i always looked up to my dad and was very proud the day i found out(which was after the day of service) that there was a globel network who is missing him almost as much as me.  again thank you and if you want to talk or ask questions im ok with that.

sincerly
amanda cheatham

Hey Amanda!  I'm very glad you found us.  :D 

(I'm sorry I didn't get to meet you and your siblings that day I was in St. Charles for the funeral.  I was on a tight schedule that weekend, and I knew I wouldn't be able to stay in Missouri for very long before I had to head back up to Wisconsin/Minnesota.) 

Yeah, your dad was a good guy -- which of course, you already knew! -- and he's missed by an awful lot of us as well.  It was hard enough losing a friend; I can only imagine what it's been like for you to lose your father (especially so quickly/unexpectedly).  I'm glad we've been able to help you cope, though; that makes us feel better too.  :) 


Tell your mom I say hello! 

Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: MetalDog on June 18, 2012, 08:04:29 PM
Greetings, Amanda.  All of us who knew your dad, even slightly, were glad that Martok was able to come and express sympathy for all of us.  I enjoyed playing games online with him.  I had hoped that one day, his route would take him through my own small little town.  I would like to have had dinner and a beer with him and talk history and games and life.  He is missed.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Gusington on June 20, 2012, 09:56:09 AM
Hi Amanda...your Dad really helped me out big time last year when I lost my job. He was a generous guy and stepped up to help me out and I will remember that. All the best to you and your family.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: mirth on June 20, 2012, 12:07:32 PM
From ScottP at Wargamer -

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Critter's love for wargames and especially Decisive Campaigns can never be forgotten. This was discussed with the team at Slitherine/Matrix Games and we'll be putting a mention to Critter in the credits of Decisive Campaigns: Case Blue.

That seems like a nice way of honoring Critter.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: bayonetbrant on June 20, 2012, 12:17:35 PM
^ agreed.  Good move on S&M's part.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Gusington on June 20, 2012, 12:26:58 PM
Very cool.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Azzurri on June 20, 2012, 01:16:27 PM
Amanda, I met Critsker personally when he was down in Houston...big giant of a man with a heart and spirit to match...I'll miss our texts and chating with him on the phone about our favorite topic: basically BS & wargames....!
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: LongBlade on June 20, 2012, 04:49:54 PM
^ agreed.  Good move on S&M's part.

+1
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: GroggyGrognard on June 20, 2012, 05:06:49 PM
Bless your heart, Amanda for your tenacious courage through what must be a difficult time for you.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Bison on June 21, 2012, 01:42:41 PM
Amanda

I just wanted to offer you my sincerest condolences for the loss of your father.  He made a very generous gesture and sent a care package to me while I was deployed that had some pictures colored by his grand daughters.  It was very thoughtful and touching gesture on his part. 

I hope that you and your family are finding comfort and peace in the knowledge of just how many people your father touched during his life.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Martok on August 02, 2012, 01:06:16 PM
I thought this was pretty cool... 



A fellow over in the Matrix forums apparently noticed the following on his copy of Decisive Battles: Case Blue (the sequel to Decisive Battles: Warsaw to Paris, the game critter was buried with): 

"DEDICATION
In memory of
Raymond W. “Critter” Cheatham, Jr.,
from his friends at Matrix Games."


Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: LongBlade on August 02, 2012, 01:09:54 PM
I thought this was pretty cool... 



A fellow over in the Matrix forums apparently noticed the following on his copy of Decisive Battles: Case Blue (the sequel to Decisive Battles: Warsaw to Paris, the game critter was buried with): 

"DEDICATION
In memory of
Raymond W. “Critter” Cheatham, Jr.,
from his friends at Matrix Games."

That was a nice gesture.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Centurion40 on August 02, 2012, 01:10:43 PM
Very cool.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: mirth on August 02, 2012, 02:29:04 PM
I thought this was pretty cool... 



A fellow over in the Matrix forums apparently noticed the following on his copy of Decisive Battles: Case Blue (the sequel to Decisive Battles: Warsaw to Paris, the game critter was buried with): 

"DEDICATION
In memory of
Raymond W. “Critter” Cheatham, Jr.,
from his friends at Matrix Games."

That was a nice gesture.

+1 A classy thing to do.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Shelldrake on August 02, 2012, 05:11:41 PM
I thought this was pretty cool... 



A fellow over in the Matrix forums apparently noticed the following on his copy of Decisive Battles: Case Blue (the sequel to Decisive Battles: Warsaw to Paris, the game critter was buried with): 

"DEDICATION
In memory of
Raymond W. “Critter” Cheatham, Jr.,
from his friends at Matrix Games."

That was a nice gesture.

I agree. I bet Critter is wearing a grin where ever he is.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: Gusington on August 02, 2012, 06:11:48 PM
Great to see something like that.
Title: Re: Critter R.I.P.
Post by: MetalDog on August 02, 2012, 07:00:26 PM
It makes me happy to see him recognized that way as well.